ACCURATE analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure, disclosed the fact that LACK OF DECISION was near the head of the list of the 30 major causes of FAILURE. This is no mere statement of a theory–it is a fact.
PROCRASTINATION, the opposite of DECISION, is a common enemy which practically every man must conquer. Napoleon Hill
I spoke with a person recently who is smart and funny with many goals and desires. The problem is the reason she has so many goals floating around is a limiting belief – that of making the wrong decision and failing, therefore she makes none and juggles many things so she does not have to make a decision. The results are that slowly, one after the other they disappear and she is left with only her dreams.
When we started the conversation, her problem sounded like it was simple time management until she confessed her fear of making the wrong choice and failing. In my upcoming book, Reinvent: Rediscover Your Passion, Refuel Your Purpose, Reset Your Life, I say There is no failure only feedback and opportunity. How you respond to situations is the only control you have. You will not get some things right. That is a fact. People are going to be critical. That is also a fact. Your feelings will control your response which in turn will give you either positive or negative results. If you respond to failure like Thomas Edison, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” you will be able to move forward to accomplish your goal. If, on the other hand, you accept that you are a failure you will get stuck in a vicious circle and likely give up on your dreams.
When you become aware of the fears that are holding you back you can reframe that fear strategy into a positive strategy that work’s for you. Remember, at one time fear strategy worked for you and you have simply outgrown it, therefor need to let it go for something that works better for you.
To reframe an outdated strategy/belief:
1. Acknowledge you are ready to let the old strategy/belief go
2. State the new strategy/belief in the positive
3. Visualize and feel the difference
4. Validate the new strategy/belief.
1. I can’t make the wrong decision. I’m ready to give that thought up;
2. I can make decisions and even if they’re wrong for now I’ve found a different opportunity to explore.
3. Visualize yourself making a decision and being happy with the results.
4. Validate: I can make decisions and even if they’re wrong for now I’ve found a different opportunity to explore.
In the end we only regret the decisions we never make.